Do you get the
-) You are judging me.
-) You don't understand my situation
-) You are unsympathizing answers. After listen the person's (in front of you) problems and give answer to it. Then person can be your student, your friend, your worker or your boss.
Or the person never talks with me after that. When I try to talk, the person keeps me at arm's length; doesn't talk on some topics which the person has a problem with or try to hide something that is occuring. I am aware that this isn't good and I want to fix it. I want a kind of speech which creates the person's awareness of that talk. Do you want to say I should care, especially the introduction part of that speech?
On the other side, you as teachers; do you not want to be the molding, development blocker teachers from your memory of childhood? But you don't consider yourself in that style because of feedback from your students in verbal or nonverbal ways. Do you want to create a speaking environment where you and your students can talk on a topic in which at least one of your students has a problem? But can't you do it? Do you have a problem with the introduction part of creating that speaking environment? Or do you lack skills about creating a safe environment? Do you want each of these groupworks with your students to be educational?
Are all of these possible or impossible for you? You should read "Inpatient Group Psychotherapy" written by Irvin D. Yalom if you want to learn them with their reasons.
Take care of yourself...
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